The Importance of Being Self-Reliant to Transform Motherhood

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As a mother, whether new or seasoned, we always look for this “village” that we all heard of, but it seems nonexistent. Sometimes, we need help, and it’s nowhere to be found. When we don’t have the support we need, we experience negative emotions. We become overwhelmed, overstimulated, depressed, or maybe even anxious. It’s time to change the feelings of helplessness to help ourselves create the fulfilling life we deserve. This post explores the importance of being self-reliant. It delves into the benefits it brings, the skills required to develop it, and the challenges that may arise. Embracing self-reliance can lead to personal fulfillment, success, and greater control over one’s own destiny.

Understanding Self-Reliance

Self-reliance is when a person is confident in one’s own ability to depend on one’s self. This means trusting your skills and using the power of discernment to take charge of your life. This requires patience and consistency to develop problem-solving skills and make the best decisions for you and your family.

Problem-solving and making decisions are skill sets that many mothers have since we do this every day for ALL tasks. Deciding what’s for dinner, who will watch the children when they are at home sick, and how they will be educated. While we may look at these as little tasks, they are actually BIG because they determine the desired outcome that we are hoping to achieve.. children not being malnourished, energy to carry out our following tasks, and most importantly, being in control of our desired outcome, which if we don’t like we have the power to change.

Independence is the fuel that drives self-reliance. It is the ability to stand on your own two feet, be self-sufficient, and not rely on others for things you can do yourself. Being self-reliant is about having the ability, skills, and mindset to navigate life’s challenges and make our own way.

How to Achieve A Self-Reliant Mindset

To achieve a self-reliant mindset, taking responsibility for your actions, choices, and outcomes is essential. You are in charge of your life, and once you know this, you must be intentional with your time and resources to achieve the best possible outcome for you and your family. Learning to manage your time effectively, prioritize tasks, and utilize available resources can make a world of difference.

Also, you must know that you are meant to overcome every obstacle. Setbacks are not a sign of weakness but stepping stones towards self-reliance. Embracing failure as an opportunity for growth allows you to learn from your mistakes, adapt your strategies, and ultimately become more resilient. When faced with challenges, take a step back and reassess the situation to find alternative solutions. Setbacks are an excellent chance to learn new skills and gain new opportunities. Click here to find out more on how to make the most of setbacks.

The Benefits of Self-Reliance

Being self-reliant is about personal growth and development. It is something that you do for yourself to feel empowered. You become more robust, wiser, and more resilient with every obstacle you overcome and every decision you make. It’s a never-ending journey of self-discovery, where you constantly surprise yourself with what you are capable of.

And the beautiful thing about motherhood is the different stages you enter as your children grow. When your child is a newborn, they depend on you, while you must be independent for them and yourself. During this time, tasks are impossible to complete. You feel satisfied when you can make something to eat because you rely on yourself to make that happen.

As children grow, they become more independent and curious about self-discovery, just like you. While they are learning new things, you are learning new things about yourself that you never could have imagined for yourself. And it’s a darn good feeling! For instance, it took me three children to finally understand, have patience, and live a calmer lifestyle. I was so used to the hustle and bustle and constantly being busy that I didn’t even think it was possible to slow down. But now that I have patience, I also have clarity with my children. It creates calmness in the household.

In this moment, you learn to trust your instincts, weigh options, and confidently make choices. When your children are being unruly, you don’t run and hide. You face them head-on by being resourceful and expanding your creativity for each child. Because as we know, in motherhood, no two kids are the same, and our approach must be different for handling each one. This is how you become the master of your ship because you realize you have what it takes to handle whatever life throws at you. Here is an amazing in-depth post about the benefits of being self-reliant.

Self-compassion is an essential component of self-reliance for mothers. Often, we feel like we need to do more or do a better job when we are doing our best. The best that we know how. We must treat ourselves with kindness and understanding, especially when the going gets tough.

By practicing self-compassion, you cultivate resilience, motivation, and the belief that you can overcome challenges and become more self-reliant. So be gentle with yourself and know that autonomy is a journey. By developing the mindset of self-reliance in motherhood, moms will feel empowered because they are developing the necessary skills to build fulfillment, success, and greater control over their own lives. So, let us embrace self-reliance and embark on a journey of growth, independence, and self-determination.

Being self-reliant can be an invaluable asset to moms, providing the confidence and motivation to face difficulties and allowing you to control your destiny more. It takes a great deal of effort to become self-reliant, but with patience and dedication, it can be done. Unlike other life skills that require money or specialized knowledge, self-reliance is something that everybody can achieve with the right attitude and dedication.

Show us how you’re cultivating your own self-reliance in motherhood! Share with us in the comments how you’re actively working to become more self-reliant and what tips you have for moms.


  1. Is self-reliance the same as being independent?

No, self-reliance is the ability to rely on oneself, make decisions, and take responsibility for one’s actions and well-being. Independence is being self-sufficient and not depending on your support system or resources. While self-reliance often involves freedom, it also encompasses personal growth, resilience, and the ability to confidently navigate various aspects of life.

2. Can anyone become self-reliant, or is it an innate quality?

Self-reliance is developed over time through patience and self-compassion. It must be nurtured. It is a skill that can be learned, practiced, and strengthened.

3. How can self-reliance benefit me in motherhood?

Self-reliance enhances decision-making skills and taking responsibility for your actions. It can lead to increased confidence, improved problem-solving abilities, and more significant opportunities for personal growth and success to create a fulfilling life for you and your family.

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  • Kelsea says:

    Important topic!!

  • Pantea says:

    This is such an important topic for all mother’s and I’m so glad that you discussed it in your beautifully written article.

  • Tracy McHugh says:

    Such an important post! I didn’t learn how to be self-reliant until my 20s and now it’s a way of life.

  • Sara Beil says:

    Yes, I love this. 100% obstacles are just a stepping stone. Great blog.

  • Sel says:

    I’m not a mom myself but this is such a big topic than need to be discussed more for all women out there. Thank you for sharing this and for at least on my end, making me want to research more on it.

  • Catherine Kay says:

    Thank you for sharing this insightful post! The journey of motherhood is a transformative one indeed. Embracing self-reliance has been a game-changer for me as a mom.

  • Sheenia Denae says:

    Great advice in this post. Thanks for sharing!

  • Megan MacDonald says:

    As a mom with two little ones starting school for the first time, I definitely needed the hear this 💜

  • Melanie O'Brien says:

    Being a Mum is a tought job. Thank you for this insightful post.

  • Stephanie says:

    Great advice. My heart breaks for children who don’t have parents who take the time to nurture, connect, and help them grow into civilized adults.

  • Homeschooling CJ says:

    Thank you for this. I like how you broke down the questions at the bottom of the article.

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