7 Habits of A Confident Mom
Motherhood is filled with ups and downs, twists and turns that are so unexpected. As a mother, it is easy to lose sight of your needs and confidence when you are busy caring for everyone else. It’s not uncommon to feel less than confident at times. Being a confident mom is essential for not only your own well-being but also your children’s.
Confident moms are better equipped to handle the day-to-day stresses of motherhood, make decisions that align with their values, and raise independent and resilient children. Confident moms cultivate certain habits that help them maintain self-assurance and thrive in their role as a parent. In this post, we will explore seven habits of confident moms you can start implementing today to help you feel more confident and empowered in your role as a mother.
1. Prioritize Self-Care
Prioritizing self-care can help moms manage their mental and physical health. It gives moms more energy and patience to handle the demands of motherhood. Check out my post about self-care tips for all moms.
2. Set boundaries
I didn’t know how important setting boundaries were until I became a mom. Setting boundaries involves leading an intentional life that aligns with the things you want out of life. Not setting boundaries and always saying yes to people and events that do not serve you leads you to not being loyal to yourself, over-committing, and burnout which makes for an unfulfilling life because you aren’t prioritizing yourself. Being respectful, honest, and assertive when communicating your boundaries is essential.
3. Avoid mom imposter syndrome
The influence of social media has made more moms compare themselves to other moms and how they should live their lives. Life has many different dimensions, and we are not all on the same extent, which means we are all told to go down different paths from the next person. It’s only possible for some of us to go the same route. Can you imagine what life would look like if we were all the same? BORING. We’re all here to add flavor and pizzazz to each other’s life. Embracing differences and imperfections allows us to be kinder to ourselves and everyone around us. Every mom has her own strengths and challenges.
4. Making decisions with confidence
This one is extremely essential! It is necessary because, in motherhood, we are often judged by our parenting styles and techniques. We are often given advice that is often portrayed as ignorance because we make decisions that are best for our children and families. It can sometimes be hard to not conform to the outside pressure of others’ opinions.
Suppose you want to make confident decisions as a mom. In that case, reflecting on your values and priorities is essential to make an informed decision. This is not to say that you will not make mistakes because you will. But mistakes allow for valuable learning experiences.
5. Raising independent and resilient children
Raising independent and resilient children are attribute of a confident mom. Confident moms are problem solvers who can handle challenges and setbacks without giving up.
Fostering independence and resilience in children takes a lot of patience and effort. Some practical tips to help children become independent and resilient include positive affirmations, teaching them it’s okay to make mistakes, and how to solve their own problems.
It’s essential to let your children make their own decisions because failure is a necessary component for building resilience. If you shield your children from failure, then they might have a hard time coping with failures and challenges later in life.
6. Be open-minded
As a confident mom, be open to learning and changes and allow yourself to grow. This may sound scary to some, but spreading your wings and seeing how high you can soar is essential. This will enable you to have a growth mindset and understand that this journey of motherhood is a continuous process of highs and lows and wrongs and rights.
Being open-minded allows for new experiences as a person and parent, challenging your own beliefs, and being curious. Just remember to always be kind to yourself.
7. Surround yourself with positivity
As a confident mom, it is essential to surround yourself with positivity. That includes being mindful of the company you keep and what you allow yourself to see, hear, and speak. This all plays on your mood and your self-esteem. This is essential during times of stress, anxiety, and uncertainty. Incorporating this into your daily will take time and patience, but the effort is worth it.
It is within every mom’s power to cultivate strong confidence in themselves and their own unique parenting style. A confident mom will trust her gut, remain adaptable, and accept challenges as opportunities for growth. Most importantly, a confident mom will not just survive as the mother of her children; she will thrive. So what’s holding you back? Go ahead, take control of your life, and be the confident mom you always wanted to be.
FAQs:
1. What if I struggle with prioritizing self-care?
Remember that self-care is not selfish and is essential for your well-being and your children’s. Start by incorporating one self-care practice into your routine, and gradually build on it. It could be as simple as taking a few minutes to meditate or read a book.
2. How do I handle pushback when setting boundaries?
It’s essential to remember that setting boundaries is not about controlling others but about taking care of yourself. Be clear and firm in your limits, and communicate them respectfully. If someone continues to push back, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship.
3. What if I fall into the comparison trap?
Remember that everyone’s journey in motherhood is unique, and there is no right or wrong way to do things. Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your strengths and what you are doing well. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem.
4. Can I become a confident mom despite my anxiety?
Yes. It’s essential to recognize that anxiety and lack of confidence can be closely linked, and seeking professional help may be beneficial. However, incorporating these habits into your daily life can also help you feel more confident and in control. Start small and be patient with yourself.